Children & Grief
Helping children understand and process grief can feel overwhelming. This guide offers age-appropriate guidance for supporting children through loss.
Grief by Age Group
Under 5 Years
Understanding of Death
May not understand death is permanent. Might think the person will 'come back'.
Common Reactions
Regression (bedwetting, thumb sucking), clinginess, changes in eating/sleeping
How to Support
Use simple, concrete language. Maintain routines. Provide physical comfort and reassurance.
5-9 Years
Understanding of Death
Beginning to understand death is final but may see it as something that happens to others, not themselves.
Common Reactions
Questions about death, fear of losing others, guilt ('Was it my fault?'), physical complaints
How to Support
Answer questions honestly. Reassure them they're safe. Allow them to express feelings through play or art.
9-12 Years
Understanding of Death
Understands death is universal and permanent. May want to know specific details.
Common Reactions
Acting out, withdrawal, school difficulties, anger, trying to be 'strong' for adults
How to Support
Include them in conversations. Allow them to participate in memorial activities. Validate their emotions.
Teenagers
Understanding of Death
Adult understanding of death but still developing emotionally.
Common Reactions
Risk-taking behaviour, isolation, intense emotions, questioning beliefs about life and death
How to Support
Respect their need for independence and peers. Be available without pushing. Consider professional support.
Helpful Tips for Parents
When to Seek Professional Help
While grief is a normal response to loss, some children may benefit from professional support. Consider seeking help if you notice:
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